*private*
Alright, you and I will have our OWN conversation about this later. About the blame and your side of it.
Has he ever had an actual experienced Dom, or does he just sort of throw himself into the fire as a submissive and hope for the best? Because there are so many irresponsible, awful assholes out there who have no idea what they're doing. I actively try to educate people and mentor them if they're interested in the lifestyle, I have no idea why so many people go the 'fuck it, it'll be fine' route.
I'll come over whenever you're available, just set it up with him if you don't mind. Feels weird since I don't know him yet. But I'd be happy to sit and talk to him about things... even offer myself as a mentor or whatever he needs. The shit I heard really... bothered me, and he's obviously dear to you. That weighs a lot.