Sent with the same owl who drops dead on arrival.
I'm not going to argue that I am, on occasion, childish, but I have never been childish when it comes to the safety of my family. I know how to control myself when it counts most. A skill Benjamin hasn't quite developed, which is what I was pointing out to you when you decided to comment on how I behave. Benjamin lost the luxury of getting to act like a teenager when he choose to become a Death Eater. You said he wasn't talking to you much and then you blamed it on being a teenager and I commented on the need for him to know when to reign it in.
When I talk about him being a good Death Eater I am speaking specifically about his safety. Do you honestly think I'm talking about him pressing his robes and polishing his mask? I am talking about him staying alive. Keeping his head down, and not letting his adolescents get him killed. I could give a shit about anything else. I don't really understand why he wanted to join, but I don't for a second believe that Ben is behind what Voldemort believes in or the way he carries out his plans, so it is even more imperative that he be mature. Where he not a DE I might agree to a need for coddling, but it's just not good for him now. My way of managing his behaviour is in his best interest.
And what's more, I appreciate your instinct to protect him, what I don't appreciate is your instinct to assume I am doing something bad or harmful. I don't think you put my past behaviours as firmly in the past as you think you do. Making a comment that I care more about being a Death Eater than I do about being a husband and father clearly shows that you are still holding it against me.
I was not trying to threaten you by telling you that I wasn't coming home I was trying to let you know so you wouldn't expect me.