Lydia Urqhart is not all she seems. (![[info]](https://www.insanejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} gloiresangpur) wrote, |
At heart, I think Zacharias is an honourable person. He would want to do the right thing by his wife and the mother of his children, to make sure any family of his own was happy, you know?
To that end, perhaps you could talk about some of the things people have said in this ward, and see if he has any specific concerns about an engagement, you can reassure him that you agree, and you can come up with a joint strategy in terms of how to speak with your parents. For instance, in some cultures, the young couple agrees to a sort of "pre-engagement", whereby if they are still together after a certain period of time, for instance, they then settle upon a more formal arrangement. That could please both sets of parents and yourselves, maybe? A form of compromise?