| May. 16th, 2024 @ 08:28 pm Podcast; Live |
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No trigger warning here. Just sit with whatever comes up for a moment. Because if you don't trigger away in disgust, this will be one of the most important podcasts you ever hear.
Masculine men do not want to be called terms of 'endearment'. Calling a man 'baby', 'sweetheart', or 'honey' is only enjoyable for a man until his masculine instinct comes online. It's emasculating and depolarizing.
Masculine men want to be called terms of reverence. It inspires them. It lights them up. It makes them want to rise up into the devotional role by which they are named.
'Sir', 'King', 'Master', and my absolute favorite, 'Daddy'.
Why? Because a man doesn't need to be 'given love' by those under his care.
Once his instinct is fully online, such terms not only do nothing for him, they are a turnoff.
Masculine men want and NEED to be given respect, and what better way to communicate respect than to call your man Daddy?
Daddy is the provider.
Daddy is the protector.
Daddy is the leader and authority.
This understanding is deeply ingrained in the instinct of every woman even if they didn't get that loving and safe experience she needed in childhood.
A woman is wired to look up to 'Daddy'.
Follow 'Daddy'.
Revere 'Daddy'.
But some women don't want to do that with a man romantically. They are too stuck in being independent. Too stuck with lack of trust. Too stuck in judgments and 'Daddy wounds'. Even women who claim to want a polarized relationship. And so there will be an emotional gut reaction of disgust, fear, or anger at the suggestion of calling her man 'Daddy'.
Often, that wound will come with stories to justify an emotional reaction, and attract other wounded woman to further validate the wound.
"Ew sick, I'm not a child and he's not my dad, I have a dad, this is perverse!" I hear you. Once upon a time I also thought it was weird, but tell me this...
Is it equally sick and perverse for a man to adoringly call his woman 'baby' even though she's not a baby? And he may already have a child who was once his literal baby? Of course not. That's probably the most common term of endearment in the English language.
Look, these terms exist for a reason. Because no one is more cherished than a baby from a parent. So calling a woman 'baby' is really communicating 'I cherish you'. Which is what a woman needs to feel from her man. No one is more revered than a Daddy from his daughter so calling a man Daddy is really communicating I revere you and that's what a man needs to feel from his woman.
The only difference here is that the women in our culture have been conditioned to not look up to the masculine. To not communicate to a man with terms of respect. To not truly and fully submit to a man who loves her. So the idea of doing so in such a perceived 'extreme' way causes many to make something truly beautiful and respectful and twist it into something ugly and perverted when it's not. That will end up causing a lot of problems in any woman's life.
It's not so much that she isn't calling her man 'Daddy' but because her resistance to the idea is a massive glaring tell that she is resisting fully letting go and looking up to her man in all ways. |
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